Shared February 8th, 2015
We continue our exhortation on “Deceit” with Samson as our main study. So Samson pressured his parents to get him a wife from among the pagans, the heathens. His request is like someone professing to be a born again believer in Christ but who is says, “Well, I’m a Christian but I am going to marry that moslem or unbeliever or that atheist.” So contrary to Old Testament laws Samson married a foreigner; and a foreigner also meant a foreigner in faith. Let me say a little bit more about this.
Today, the New Testament, which is still in force, does not allow Christians to marry non-believers, for the same reasons I just mentioned. If there are different doctrines and different beliefs, different commitments and different allegiances, then how can one keep the unity of the family? Do you get that? And that is why Samson’s parents asked him, in Judges 14:3, “Is there no woman among the daughters of your people, that you must go to get a wife from the uncircumcised Philistines?” The same question can be asked of you if you call yourself a “Christian” but are doing as Samson did. Light and darkness do not, cannot mix.
Look at the word “uncircumcised.” It is key. Why? Because for the Israelites, circumcision was the sign that an individual was from God’s people. So when Samson’s parents mentioned the fact that the woman he was interested in was the daughter of the uncircumcised Philistines, they were communicating to Samson that her people, the Philistines, did not worship the God of Israel. Thus Samson, being a Nazirite is expected to, should have known better. Instead, he chose to and insisted on getting married to this woman. This was Samson’s first mistake. What decision are you making right now that you ought to know, as a child of God, that it is very contrary to what God says? Do not be deceived for God is not mocked.
That was not all. Samson had a second mistake. What was that second mistake? His decision to marry the unbeliever was based not on having known this woman but was based only on physical attraction. Look at what he told his father, “Get her for me, for she pleases me well” (Judges 14:3). Wow! Picture that: the most powerful and strongest man on the planet says “Get her for me”! Maybe not the dad, but the mum should have handled Samson’s request and taken a belt to him. During his wedding to the Philistine woman, Samson was deceived and humiliated by his wife and wedding guests (Judges 14:1-15).
This is what I am saying, that Samson’s marriage decision was based solely on physical attraction and not on any sort of spiritual grounds. Let me put it this way: Deli’lah had the botox injections, the implants, the facelifts, the false eyelashes, just name it. And Samson was enamored with all that. But in this kind of marriage what do you think will happen after a few months? You know the answer: the physical attraction will sooner or later wither just as beauty fades and then that person will be faced with the reality of the lack of spirituality. Eye candy is nothing but deception.
What is my point? That marriage cannot be simple, physical attraction. Marriage (relationship) is much more complex and involves the body, soul and spirit. So just like Samson cannot quickly make a decision based only on what he saw, the physical attraction, so too you cannot; so too I cannot. As Samson said, “She pleases me well” (Judges 14:3). What pleased him well? What he saw, and truly, this was not a wisely made or a spiritually based decision.
This leads us to what I consider Samson’s third mistake: dishonouring his own parents and not listening to them. You know that you forfeit the blessing of your parents when you disrespect them, right? Samson, in forcing this marriage and insisting upon his desires did exactly that. And throughout the whole Bible, both in the Old and in the New Testament, there are many verses that emphasize the importance of honouring one’s parents and obeying them. In Ephesians 6:2 the apostle Paul wrote the following, “Honor your father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise“. Samson forfeited the blessings of both his father and mother when he insisted upon his decision. So his parents yielded to his desire. So far, do you see what deception has led to? TBC.
Proposed prayer: “Dear Father, please help me to listen to You and not to seek my own way. I am grateful for the lesson that You are teaching me from the error of Samson’s ways; help me to pay attention and listen to Your counsel so that I can serve You faithfully. I pray in Jesus’ name. Amen